Childhood and self-confidence from the book, Change your posture, change your life ~ Richard Brennan
What you thought before has led to every choice you have made, and this adds up to you at this moment. If you want to change who you are physically, mentally and spiritually, you will have to change what you think.
The self-confidence that very young children naturally possess can be maintained only in the absence of stress, confusion, uncertainty and most of all, the fear of failure. Unfortunately, these are the very forces inflicted upon many children to “keep them under control.”
The way in which we were treated as children has an enormous influence on how we live the rest of our lives, and many of the behaviour patterns that we repeat through our adult lives are formed in early childhood. As children, we learn everything we know from mimicking those around us, and at first we do not even judge the actions that we are copying. The habits acuqired then often only emerge 20 or 30 years later, when we have children of our own.
Children are not born with fixed opinions or prejudices; these are acquired without question from the environment in which they live. It can be useful to question aspects of our lives to see if we are living as we would choose to, or merely trying to live up to other people’s expectations without realizing it.
Although we are not individually to blame for the goal oriented way that education has developed, we have a responsibility to change it. the best way that we can help children is to stop imposing rigid rights and wrongs, in order to reduce the level of fear that they experience.
If we can give them confidence by encouraging them, rather than promoting fear of ridicule and punishment for getting things wrong, we will be helping them in a fundamental way to improve their wellbeing, which in turn will beneficially affect their posture. If we can teach our children in a way that enhances their self-esteem, they will not only learn more, but also lead more harmonious and creative lives.